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Microserfs and Stranger than Fiction

August 14, 2008 – 9:05 pm
So I've decided to try something new (Yet AGAIN) with the blog and actually attempt something I've tried for years, without much success.  It comes from something I had read when I was in a time of my life that had me less than happy with my life. "Lately I've been unable to sleep.  That's why I've begun writing this journal late at night, to try to see the patterns in m life.  From this I hope to establish what my problem is - and then, hopefully, solve it.  I'm trying to feel more well adjusted than I really am, which is, I guess, the human condition.  My life is lived day to day, one line of bug-free code at a time." -Douglas Coupland.  Microserfs So, in the same way that I find some sort of affinity with the main character who is also a tech like myself that finds himself in a ...

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End of the experiment

July 13, 2008 – 10:32 pm
It has come to an end.  I've realized that the monthly fee of both Chemistry.com and Eharmony is a bit much to pay for electronic rejection.  I figured that I could spend the same amount going to bars so that I can get rejected in person.  At least I'll have more fun drinking that way.  The 29 points of compatibility, though I'm sure it works for folks, doesn't seem to take into account the one thing that cannot be quantified, the attraction factor. While my short time using both services could be seen as giving up too easily, there was so little response to my ads that I feel that spending more time and money on this would have been a waste of money.  So I am ending this part of the experiment.  I'll probably eventually figure out what I'm going to turn the blog into, not sure what it should ...

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Yet another profile change

June 23, 2008 – 5:38 pm
So the joke chemistry.com profile didn't work. For those that haven't been keeping up, this is the post.  So I put a normal profile back up.  Enjoy, tear it apart, tell me what you think.  Does it sound like some old fuddy duddy?  or someone that would use the phrase "fuddy duddy?" I've lived in Colorado most of my life.  I love it here.  What other state can provide you with great skiing and awesome fishing.  I do things outdoors when I have the time, but I also love to read and write, practice my cello, learn a new language, cook for friends, I'll try just about anything once. I'm not much into the Denver nightlife, though I do go out with the guys every once in a while. I work in the hotel industry, so occasionally I need to travel a bit.  I enjoy travelling, except the airport parts, and look ...

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New Pictures

June 5, 2008 – 9:52 pm
After talking with my friend's wife I changed the picture of myself on my eharmony and my chemistry profiles. Since I'm still totally paranoid about my web exposure, I've decided not to post them, but they are much nicer then the pictures from a work trip I was using up til now. I have also gotten seriously annoyed at the lack of any sort of response from my chemistry account. So I've put up the craigslist ad from my previous post. Yes, the one where I am a total jerk and its a joke really. I've wondered if being too nice is actually a problem on these sites. I mean, there are ads after ads that seem so bland and dull that I just look for something different anymore. I mean, I'd rather go out with someone less then perfect who at least ...

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Holy Crap!

May 28, 2008 – 10:35 pm
I haven't been having much luck getting to a point where I can actually go on a date with either eharmony or chemistry. I'm starting to wonder if it is actually me. The most common element of all my failed relationships is me. I heard that once from a comedian, but can't remember who it is, so I can't attribute it. An odd moment did happen on chemistry tonight. After being on call and watching my favorite reality show (Top Chef), I decided to check who I was being matched with on Chemistry. I went through the usual number of people who preferred to date within their race. I was excited to see someone with an asian sounding name. Now I'm not sure how often this happens, but when I opened up the profile, I looked at the picture and realized that it was ...

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Pessimism

May 19, 2008 – 7:26 am
I figured that online dating would be a bit slow, requiring a certain patience. I had no idea that I would still be completely dateless. Lately I've been pretty busy with work, so I hadn't really noticed how long it was taking. From eharmony I have only gotten to open communication with 1 person. I have not gotten past showing interest with anyone on chemistry. I understand that the majority of people that sign up for these services will probably never go back to the site after opening their free account. This is somewhat annoying for a matching site. The problem is that even with this understood majority of nonusers, my response rate seems to be incredibly low. At least from what I think it should be. I'm starting to wonder if other men have this sort of problem with these ...

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I get bored easily

May 17, 2008 – 2:56 pm
I decided to put an ad on craigslist.  Does this sound desperate?  Yes.  I'm working more then ever these days, so trying to do normal person things to meet women is getting to be less and less an option for the immediate future.  I got bored one night watching the BBC and put this up.  This was just me trying to be difficult and annoying and see if anyone responded to that. I only like to think I do things outdoors, when in reality I'd rather be sitting at home watching TV and maybe cooking myself something to eat for dinner. I would probably say how caring and kind and gentle I am, cause I'm trying to change your mind that every guy is an insensitive prick, wel I am an insensitive prick. I probably won't notice the new hairdo, dress, shoes, earrings, car, boyfriend you've managed to pick up in ...

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Chemistry.com profile

May 17, 2008 – 2:45 pm
Since I've posted my Eharmony profile, btw no date as of yet. I swear I'm doing something wrong. No date from Chemistry.com. I might just be one of those undateable people. I've been feeling a bit pessimistic lately. So here is my Chemistry profile. It is not edited in anyway. Loves to travel and seeks adventure My life has gotten pretty busy with work and I'm not a huge fan of trying to meet people in the places i go to see my friends, so I've decided to try this out. I work in computers which gives me the opportunity to travel and see many different cities. Which of course has meant that sometimes its difficult to nail me down to one place. I've spent the last few years travelling and working, so relationships have not really been a priority for me. I have had the opportunity ...

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Race and dating

May 6, 2008 – 6:12 am
I've now signed up for chemistry.com and I've noticed an interesting trend in internet dating.  A lot of the women in Colorado have specified that their match is white.  Now maybe I'm just sensitive after my recent encounter with a ignorant redneck frat boy, but on average out of every 5 that I'm matched with, at least 2 and normally around 3 state that they would prefer a white man over any other race, with the exception of hispanic or african, over others.  Now I know that many people would never admit to being racist in this.  Most women would say in public or to their friends that they have nothing against an asian man, or that they just have a preference for white men.  The problem with this is that this IS racist.  To make a decision, i.e. choose a preference based on the race of a person either ...

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Unintended Consequences

April 30, 2008 – 1:20 pm
This little bit of Eharmony gold comes from a friend of a friend. She was considering the possibility of participating in the wonderful online dating experience that is Eharmony. She was hesitant because of an experience of a friend of hers who had gone on a date, only to find out during the date he was an 80's Christian music pop star, now relegated to the annals of history. How random would it be to end up on a date with some childhood pop star that never made it through adolescence. I mean, imagine going out with one of the New Kids on the Block or Debbie Gibson or another famous person we had crushes on but didn't survive fame. Now that I've thought about it a bit, I'm all tweaked out about the possibility of going on a date with someone who's name is the same ...

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